Why ‘good girls’ stay poor

Let’s take a look at how your income can be related to the ‘good girl’ syndrome that has become so widespread nowadays. But first, a few words about what the ‘good girl’ syndrome actually means. It is a behavior strategy that suggests that a person strives to please everyone, always make a good impression, meet everybody’s expectations, serve, be committed and be prepared for any possible situation. ‘Good girls’ can never say ‘no’, they are always friendly and modest. They are also anxious, they are afraid of being judged, they never want to disappoint or offend anyone. Other people’s happiness is a priority for a ‘good girl’.

By the way, there can also be ‘good boys’. This behavior strategy is not gender-related.

So why do ‘good girls’ often stay poor?

1. A ‘good girl’ finds it hard to charge money for her work.

No, this does not mean that she doesn’t value herself. However, by charging and receiving a decent payment, a ‘good girl’ will lose her tool for manipulation. When you charge less for your work than its actual value or refuse to take payment at all, you feel like you have power over the other person: now they owe you something. And this is exactly the goal of this mind game.

2. A ‘good girl’ doesn’t know how to take care of herself.

Instead, she chooses to take care of others so that they take care of her in turn. As a result, the well-being of this ‘good girl’ depends on anyone else, but not on herself. That’s why these people often blame their circumstances, bad luck, or a curse for their low income… anyone but themselves.

3. A ‘good girl’ wants to meet other people’s expectations.

A ‘good girl’ always waits. She waits for others to tell her how much they are willing to pay. She waits for her boss to offer her a pay rise. She waits that they will notice her effort and it will be rewarded. But she struggles to ask for these things for herself because she’s afraid that it’s not what the other person wants.

4. A ‘good girl’ tries too hard.

She believes that if she works extra hard, if she does everything and more, if she puts all of herself into work, she will surely be rewarded. But the ‘good girl’ forgets to discuss the reward in advance. And if you don’t appreciate yourself, others won’t do it either.

5. A ‘good girl’ often suppresses anger.

As a child, she was told that good people never get angry, that only bad people and evil witches can be angry, and that it’s a dangerous emotion. But in reality, suppressed anger wastes the energy that you need to achieve good income, and it prevents you from expressing yourself to the full extent. 

‘Good girls’ often say “Money can’t buy happiness”. That’s true, money doesn’t bring happiness, but money allows you to satisfy your basic needs, and therefore gives you strength and energy to take care of your happiness. Money allows you to go up from ‘survival’ level to ‘enjoying your life’ level.

Money also gives you the opportunity to try many different things, and this is the only way to find out what truly makes you happy. Money opens up doors; behind these doors you’ll find growth, pleasure, joys, hobbies, and new people. When you have money, you generally feel calmer, more relaxed and secure, which is why it is so important to work on your attitudes towards money.