Anxious attachment style affects the quality of life and relationships. So it’s important to work with it, moving step by step towards the secure attachment style. Here are some simple everyday self-help recommendations:
Learn to make yourself happy
Happiness is a wonderful (and more importantly natural) way to reduce anxiety.
Your task is to learn to identify what can make you happy in the moment and provide yourself with that.
You need to make happiness a part of your daily routine.
This will give you balance, emotional stability and independence.
Rehearse
Sincere and direct communication is the Achilles heel of people with the anxious attachment style. Fortunately, this is fixable.
Learn your communication triggers.
Observe how you respond to them.
Think (search for information on) how you can respond differently.
Replay the situation in your imagination following a different action scenario several times, let yourself get used to it.
Try the new response in practice.
Breathe
Increased anxiety (and it’s definitely your case) affects breathing even when there seems to be no triggering factors.
Almost all anxious people have breathing issues.
Why do you need to eliminate them?
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Non sei sicuro da dove iniziare?
Because your breathing affects:
– how you feel mentally
– how you feel physically
– how well and clearly you think
Learn to breathe properly.
Practice self-regulation
Usually a person with the anxious attachment style expects their partner to calm them down and take their worries away.
We do really need support of others in a difficult situation.
The problem is that with anxious attachment, there’s always a difficult situation.
So make it a rule: first you help yourself on your own, and then, if you still need it, you go in your partner’s arms.
Learn to calm your Inner Child
The reason for your anxiety in the relationship is your Inner Child. It is afraid to be abandoned, left behind, and rejected again.
But being an adult, you can become a caring parent for yourself. And then you’ll be able to build romantic relationships from an equal position, and not motivated by the “need to have someone strong by your side.”
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