You broke up long time ago and your love story is a thing of the past. Your ex may have started another relationship (or even got married and had kids), but you still feel unable to turn the page over. Here’s a checklist that will help you figure out your own situation.
1. Your ex is always on your mind
Time goes by, but you seem to be standing still. You associate every life event with past — the time when you were still together.
2. You miss them a lot
Sometimes this feeling becomes so overwhelming that you start doubting your decision to break up. So from time to time, you get an urge to text or call them to ‘give it another try’. Moreover, you spy on your ex on social media like a private detective and you know every post and picture they liked.
3. You compare your potential partners with your ex
When there’s a good opportunity for you to start a new relationship, you don’t even try to. Instead of going out on a date and having a good time, you belittle and reject potential partners because they can’t measure up to your ex. Or maybe you villainize them, thinking that ‘all men/women are the same!’
4. You still have intense emotions
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It’s okay to be angry, upset, or anxious when you just broke up, but with time, your feelings should become less painful. If this doesn’t happen, it’s a sure sign that you are stuck in a past relationship.
5. You want revenge
You want to prove something to your ex, to hurt them and make them regret losing you.
6. You constantly talk about your ex
You might not even notice doing this: “What would my ex think?” or “What would my ex do in this situation?”
Sure, you can spend months and years believing that you won’t find anyone better than your ex. You can keep carrying this weight of resentment and pain on your shoulders and deprive yourself of a chance for happiness. But is that really what you want?
You can get stuck in a breakup for various reasons, so it’s worth sorting them out and changing your attitude. You can find a different way to handle your breakup. Results won’t keep you waiting: you will feel happier, liberated, and your life will once again be full of joy, confidence and attractiveness.
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