Why is it so important to have your ex all anxious and in a bad shape? Regretting the break-up and living in despair?
Let us figure it out.
⚬ Longing for justice
If your break-up was painful for you, it may seem that you shouldn’t be the only person to suffer. Your ex should suffer too. Poetic justice. Equal shares.
The Just-world hypothesis is one of the most basic fallacies. It comes with a baggage of massive problems.
Chasing that non-existing justice, we deplete our resources getting nothing in return.
⚬ Self-esteem issues
Break-ups inevitably hurt your self-esteem. A lot depends on the strength of your character. If you are a person of integrity and strong spirit, then you are unlikely to suffer a severe blow to your self-esteem. However, if this is not the case, then you may be stuck with harsh consequences regarding your self-esteem.
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Should this happen – it may seem that your ex’s agony somehow improves on your individuality. That this person’s anguish and misery prove your merit.
⚬ Wishing to bring it all back
It happens that it seems impossible to recognize the fact of your break-up. You just do not want to do it. You wish to bring it all back. Then your ex’s torment seems to be a lifeline, giving you hope. Because if the other party is in a bad shape, it means… that not everything is lost.
As you can see, wishing your ex to suffer indicates your own unhealthy internal mental processes. It would do you good to center on improving YOUR OWN life and YOUR OWN condition. Not someone else’s trepidations, even if they please your vanity.
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