We are always ready to support the people we love, but for some unknown reason, we treat ourselves as an evil stepmother treats Cinderella in the same situations. So, now it’s the right time to learn a totally new approach.
Try to embed these phrases in your thoughts. Every time something strange or unpleasant happens, just use them. You need to continue the experiment for at least 10 days. You will be surprised by the changes in your state and the results of your endeavors.
This is an experience and you need to live it.
Remember when Thomas Edison invented the light bulb? When people were trying to tell him something in order to support him after many failures, he would tell the following: “I have never seen a single defeat. I just invented 10,000 options that don’t work.” In some cases, you really want to be happy, but life gives you another lesson. However, such a lesson is the driving force that moves us forward.
I became one life older.
This is also about the experience but in a more global sense. Sometimes failure is literally unsettling. It’s not a small thing, but something more serious and life-changing. Going through this will definitely change you, but only you can choose how. You have already grown as a person. You are one life older than before and that’s great.
What will you think about it in a year?
Now things, which happened seem very important. They penetrate all your thoughts and literally obscure the light. Try to think about the most worrying things, which took place a year ago. Are they really important now? Probably not. The same thing will happen to these experiences. The main thing is not to hold on to the failure too tightly.
Just try to be amazed by the results.
The irony is a cool thing. It allows you to rise up in the moments when it seems that it’s time to despair. Here’s an alternative variant to be used in similar cases.
I can handle it!
It is very important for us to be believed in. It’s always relevant. But we also have to believe in ourselves, and this belief is the most important. By saying this phrase to yourself, you are setting yourself for success and conducting a light meditation and self-programming session. This is useful!
I’m going to cry today. And tomorrow I will go further.
It is important to give yourself permission to get upset and to cry if you want. You don’t need to be a superhero, just be a human! You can be worried when something goes wrong. It’s absolutely normal. You have a legal right to release emotions! However, there’s no need to immerse yourself in the ocean of sadness and gloom. Give yourself time, then get up and go on!
Shit happens.
Do you remember a great movie called “Forrest Gump” where the main character accidentally told this phrase? It’s completely true because sometimes everything goes completely wrong. This is life. By stating this fact, you can stop the self-flagellation. What’s the point? Just shit happens.
Sometimes bad things happen to good people
Many people were told that one shall wait for many good things by doing good things from childhood. Unfortunately, the world is not that straightforward. If something doesn’t work out, it’s not necessarily your fault or a flaw. Always remind yourself of that.
I did everything I could.
Yes, you made an effort to ensure that the result would be better. However, you couldn’t succeed. It’s important to remove the burden of guilt, and this phrase will help you.
If it didn’t work out today, it doesn’t mean that it will never work out.
This is also an element of positive self-programming and the absolute truth! Today it’s not the best, but who knows what will happen tomorrow? Especially keeping in mind the fact that you have a new experience.
I’ll think about it tomorrow.
Oh! Do you remember the most popular statement of Scarlett O’Hara? And it helps! There are times when you realize that you can’t think straight now, and your frustration obscures everything. You can forget about it… until tomorrow. On the next day, you can use a statement from one old fairytale: “Sleep on it, you can think better after a night’s sleep.” Maybe you won’t be so disturbed by this situation the next morning?
