Emotions alarm

Not a man – a flint! No muscle will flinch in a difficult situation. Always calm, restrained, unperturbed … You have to admit, you’ re pleased when others evaluate you like that.

However, if at the same time, you sometimes hear people speaking of you as a closed person or even an insensitive one, then this won’t please you but highly alarm you. Why do you react approximately the same way to good, sad, or disturbing events?

Most likely, the issue is your low emotional sensitivity. Other can’t understand from neither facial expressions, nor gestures, nor the voice how you feel about what’s happening, and even more so, what’s happening inside your soul. The saddest thing is that you also have difficulty deciphering your emotions, and for your own peace of mind, it’s easier for you to forbid yourself to feel than to monitor and understand your internal conditions.

There could be different reasons for such behavior:

• strict upbringing and a ban on the manifestation of feelings
• low emotional intelligence
• psychological trauma
• professional burn-out

Either way, low emotional sensitivity isn’t that harmless as it may seem.

Here are a few “hidden hazards”  of such a state:

• by prohibiting negative emotions for yourself, you inadvertently transfer this prohibition to positive, pleasant feelings; hence, low mood, loss of strength, inability to enjoy life, a tendency towards being depressive;
• difficulties in determining the emotions of others and, as a result, difficulties in establishing friendships and working relationships, failures in romantic relationships;
• unconscious and unexpressed emotions can over time manifest themselves in the form of psychosomatic diseases: neurodermatitis, migraines, hypertension, obesity, etc.

If you don’t like these scenarios of events, then you should start exploring your emotional world and try to allow yourself to feel. It won’t be easy, because you’ll have to deal with your “demons” and even get tired of the variety of feelings that you’ll encounter when observing yourself and others.

In order to facilitate your immersion in this complex but interesting world of emotions, we suggest finding your “island of tranquility”, where you can relax from strong feelings and find a peace of mind.

The following hobbies can be of great help for this:

• crafts: knitting, macramé, embroidery, beadwork, felting, pottery, batik, puzzles – all these activities reduce anxiety, help to cope with the chaos of feelings and calm down;
• yoga: many of its types (hatha, nidra, yin) will help you relieve muscle tension and clamps, clear your consciousness and establish a connection between the inner world and the body;
• fishing: the surface of water, morning silence and a long-awaited break from communication will help restore your spiritual strength and feel your unity with nature (and no, fishing isn’t just an exclusively male hobby!;
• zen garden on your desk: creating your own little universe of stones and sand helps you escape from earthly worries and anxieties, listen to your feelings and enjoy inner harmony;
• floristry: it can be making bouquets, flower arrangements, bonsai, creating panels and collages – the process of creating such beautiful things pacifies, calms and allows your senses to take shape.